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Today’s Submitted Story comes from Lynda, where she talks about the importance of letting guys date traditionally. Enjoy!
As a single girl dating in today’s society, I try to be as courteous as I can to men. Knowing that the playing field is more level than it has ever been in respects to money/time/energy, I try to come across as unselfish and equal by sharing the weight in the dating game. Granted, I still expect a man to open my door, pay if he asks me out, and other traditional things, but I would always try to make things more “equal” by not making a man drive. Like, I would meet him at his place, or at the restaurant, or at wherever we were going to go so that way I felt like it wasn’t all on him.
One time, after I had gone out with the same guy a few times, he asked me, “Do you have a reason why you won’t ever let me pick you up at your place?”
I was speechless. He went on to talk about how he likes to be traditional… I said something in response, but I felt really bad. All this time I had thought I was being considerate of his time and money, showing that I was willing to invest in the evening as well, trying to make his life easier… when in reality I wasn’t letting him date me the way he wanted to date me. Here I was with the huge double standard of expecting men to be traditional, but then not giving them the chance.
So ladies, I write this to help you realize that most of the men you want to date actually WANT to date you traditionally. Don’t try to ease the guilt today’s society has placed on you— that you are a burden— by making the date gender-neutral.
Don’t let society put that guilt on you.
Wipe it aside, let him pick you up, let him get your door, and be ok with the fact that he wants to do those things for you.